I’ll begin this little piece with a quote from Playboy chairman Hugh Heffner:
“The Playboy girl reflects the ideals of both genders. She is pure, virginal, clean, healthy, free of blemishes and happy. She is not concerned with the uglier parts of humanity. How could she lower herself to such pursuits as the worst of men?”
The full quote can be found with a proper Google search, but this send-off more than tells the story for the modern feminist movement. Playboy Headquarters is largely run by women today – women so tragically and fully convinced of Hugh Heffner’s status as a feminist crusader for sexual parity that when questioned on the subject by social conservatives, they react as though they are staring at the face of the devil. I’ll come back to Playboy – the ultimate cultural icon for horny young males and the ultimate symbol for everything that is wrong with the sexual revolution – in a moment.
You’re going to hear a lot about social issues in the media now that Rick Santorum has catapulted to the top of the polls in the 2012 primary race, so I think a careful examination of the FACTS – not the ideals or the ideologies of the desires of American women in search of insurance against the hard choices that life presents – is in order regarding women’s liberation and the sexual revolution.
I”ll start you here:
This is a much MUCH more complex issue than the common treatment of it by the mainstream media would have you believe. Here’s an executive summary of the facts presented by Erika Bachiochi and Catherine Pakaluk:
Liberals claim that contraception has freed women from the dangers of unwanted pregnancy and the related consequences (forced or premature marriage, single motherhood, abortion, poverty, forced retirement and the health risks of pregnancy). In actuality it has done NONE of those things. Since the advent of the pill, single motherhood has increased by an order of magnitude, premature marriage has been replaced by deadbeat dads, abortion is commonplace and every bit as devastating as it has ever been for the psychiatric health of mothers, and mothers no longer have the option of retiring. They must work AND raise their children, resulting in new consequences such as children who feel abandoned, children who go on to lives of crime and underachievement, and the depressing reality of the ghetto, where generation after generation are born, live and die in endless poverty and despair. And the fact is, all of the responsibility for stopping pregnancy now shifts to the woman. If she misses a dose of the pill (oh so easy to do), its effectiveness goes to zero and the man is far more likely to feel no responsibility for the resulting offspring. In fact, he may resent her for her supposed failure and break off their relationship. All of this is despite thirty years of aggressive sex-education policy in this country designed to emphasize birth control and condom use over all other forms of protection for women and to de-emphasize the emotional and spiritual risks of premarital sex.
The leaders of the sexual revolution do seem to be doing well, however. It appears that a class of elite women has developed that is immune to the crushing affects of this new “freedom” for the rest of female-kind. Fascinating how the “creme” always seems to rise even if the coffee is rancid.
Many of my closest friends will respond to these facts with this refrain:
“There are a lot of bastards out there — a lot of guys looking for meaningless sex. Shouldn’t women know how to protect themselves from this, and shouldn’t they use those protections? Or are you asking us to turn back the clock and subjugate women to the yoke of marriage and motherhood?”
But this presupposes that men are always going to be this selfish in such large numbers. The same sexual revolution that brought us the pill and a renewed interest in the female orgasm also brought us a fleet of men for whom society has had very low expectations. They’re told by the culture that sex is safe now, that it’s just for fun, and that women want it just as badly as they do. They’re divorced from a long history of religious teaching that focused CORRECTLY on the emotional risks of sex and the man’s responsibility for the outcome of his behavioral choices.
Social memes are incredibly powerful things. In twenty years, the average American went fro 82% likely to think homosexuality was immoral to merely 37% likely to say the samke. In a mere twenty years, the KKK went from a legitimate political power in the South to the laughingstock of American history. In twenty years, we went from believing that all school children should say the Pledge of Allegiance to believing that even the act of reciting it infringed on the rights of children who wished not to say it. And in 35 years, we went from 5% of all pregnancies being out of wedlock to 40% (!)., And divorce? Divorce was the end result of roughly 30% of marriages decades ago, but that proportion has now increased to more than 55%. We can get any result we want (in the gross statistical sense) from our culture. So why do we want men to be freed from sexual burdens and loosed on unsuspecting women in the name of sexual pleasure-cruising? Why don’t we want men to behave themselves and take care of women the way they should?
The answer to the problems of the sexual revolution isn’t to go back to the 50’s or to stay the course and hope the pills get better and less fraught with side effects and failure-rates. The answer is a sex-education revolution that focuses on the emotional, psychological and physical risks of sex – not just on pregnancy and STDs – and lets men know that we expect more from them than to be walking hormone bombs looking for a sperm dumpster. The emasculation of men must be fought if women are to ever take their rightful place as our societal equals and achieve levels of happiness they haven’t experienced since Eve and the figurative Garden of Eden.
It sure seems to me that the current accepted position for most women in the new order of modern feminism is precisely the position in which Hugh Heffner dreamed she would be forty years ago — minus the purity part. There’s just one problem: when a bunny gets into trouble, Heffner casts her from his mansions. What we’ll get if we follow the idealistic view of modern feminists – the one that supposed that if women were identical to men in their liberty to express themselves sexually, they’d be happier with sex – is a world of Playboy bunnies who are lauded for their sexual expression while they’re young and relatively pure (untainted by pregnancy) and then cast aside to be miserable with their options for reproduction and sexuality when they get too old or too altered by pregnancy to appear on a centerfold. Don’t believe me? Talk to Ms. October, 1995.
I guarantee you, ladies: I (and Rick Santorum) care far more for your happiness than Nancy Pelosi or Debbie Wasserman-Schultz would have you believe. We both want you to be happy in the best way possible and we want that happiness to be for LIFE…not just during college or high school or your twenties.